Resilient Redux

My Plan for 2012

2011-12-30T10:47:00.000-08:00

2012 is upon us. I finally got around to blogging more frequently again after posting less and less here so I feel revitalized. I write more in my personal journal these days, but when I have an interesting insight, I turn to this blog. Although I think the Mayan legend for the year 2012 is interesting, I don't think we have to worry about the world ending. God will decide the year, month, day,

Conquering Holiday Stress with Relaxation

2011-12-12T11:27:00.000-08:00

(image courtesy of "shewrites") The holidays are a busy time of year. Usually, I'm racing around trying to find last minute gifts for people and prepare for my wife's birthday. This year I have final exercises due for the foundation of my digital media certificate, planning my wife's 30th birthday ugly Christmas sweater bash hosted in a hotel suite, gift buying, secret santa, office and

Pressing Forward

2011-11-16T21:34:00.001-08:00

After struggling for a majority of 2011 trying to improve the prospects of my career, I'm finally catching up with progress and new skills to boot. I pushed myself to acquire new knowledge I wasn't necessarily motivated to do so, but I hanged in there and got a raise at work and respect back. I feel relieved to know I'm back on track. The "hard stuff " I didn't want to doesn't seem as hard as

5 Pitfalls of the Past I Try to Avoid

2011-09-26T13:28:00.000-07:00

1. Laziness (Escaping Responsibility) I've found it's so easy to come home from work, change, sit on the couch, and veg in front of my flat-screen TV (or my portable video game) for hours if I'm not aware of the time. Laziness quickly settles in day after day of this repetitive behavior. Chores get missed, studying homework is forgotten, planning for future events and goals is forgotten.

Why Women Chase the Mature Man

2011-09-26T13:08:00.000-07:00

I'd like to share some insight struggles I have been facing this year on my path to a mature man. But first an interesting explanation from actor, Morgan Freeman on what he believes is the secret to successful relationships with women. Don't Chase Women I caught an interesting video clip from CNN's Pier's Morgan Tonight interviewing Morgan Freeman last weekend. At one point in the show Piers

Courage, Strength and Honor: A Manhood Movie List

2011-08-09T09:11:00.000-07:00

I've been thinking about some of the changes and challenges I've been facing the past few years and particularly this year as I grow into my own and strive to be a better man. I'm turning 30 this month and I've been doing a lot of reflecting in life. To me sometimes the best way to reflect is to identify with a leading character of a film. For instance; the adversity the character faces when met

Periodicity

2011-06-30T11:10:00.000-07:00

periodicity (ˌpɪərɪˈɒdɪk) — n 1. happening or recurring at intervals; intermittent 2. of, relating to, or resembling a period 3. having or occurring in repeated periods or cycles Previously in my last post, I came to the conclusion that a positive attitude would propel me forward in my career and in life. Unfortunately but true, it's not realistic to always project a positive attitude and

Positive Attitude

2011-05-11T20:18:00.000-07:00

After being negative for a while and not doing much about some problems personally and at work, I'm slowly making a turn-around. I may not be a total genius or meeting all my deadlines that get thrown my way, but lately things are starting to get better. The first thing I had to change about myself was my attitude. I was lazy and didn't really care about how my work reflected about me or what I

Equanimity

2011-04-12T09:57:00.000-07:00

"Leaders who can stay optimistic and upbeat, even under intense pressure, radiate the positive feelings that create resonance. By staying in control of their feelings and impulses, they craft an environment of trust, comforts and fairness. And that self-management has a trickle down effect from the leader." Daniel Goleman, Primal LeadershipI've been under significant amounts of pressure to

Progress To Not Digress

2011-02-10T14:50:00.000-08:00

Interestingly enough, I'm learning to get things done earlier rather than leaving deadlines to the last minute. I end up worrying less and have to deal with less anxiety on a day to day basis. The hard part is making this a consistent habit. In Driven by Distraction, the author Howell suggests putting stuff to do in an orderly and easily accessible way by color coding folders. In other words

Structure Is Good

2011-02-01T16:24:00.000-08:00

Last month for Christmas my wife bought me a suitcase, a Franklin Covey daily planner and various to-do notepads. I laughed at her at first, but after having these daily tools for a month I'm already thankful. I've been able to keep track of what I need to do before I forget it and make sure if I have to run out and pick something up at the store, I get it. The structure keeps my adhd in check. I

A Collection of Quotes

2011-01-25T14:27:00.000-08:00

Every now and then, I'll come across a quote that sinks and impacts me in a powerful way and gets me to think about life and what man aims for in his life. I'd like to share a few quotes that I've collected over the last year or so and a special section for the various quotes that begin a single chapter in many of the Dune novels. Various "Today is what you couldn't get done yesterday." -

Turning Over a New Leaf

2011-01-20T15:50:00.000-08:00

I'm thrilled with the idea of starting something new in my career. I felt I was spinning my wheels trying to do so much to run a website all by myself by managing the design and development by my self without prior project management. I will now be embarking on a 10-15 month program to get my multimedia skills up to speed with current technology standards in mobile media and web video. My

Atonement

2011-01-13T17:19:00.000-08:00

I've been thinking about atonement lately. I let everyone down around me who instilled trust with the words and promises I made. I've learned I tend to start a project, but will wander off to some other interest. This time period could be minutes, hours, days, weeks. The problem lies with inconsistency in attention. The ability to finish a book, project, training, studying - start to finish.The

My Plan for 2011

2011-01-04T15:20:00.000-08:00

It's 2011. I don't blog as much as I used to and apparently I skipped out on my plan for 2010. I'm returning to semi-form here and updating my outlook for this year and the ability to be proactive. I don't think anyone reads this blog anymore (but will pretend they do).The Setup[^] - accomplished[-] - not accomplishedPrevious goals for 2009 (2010 combined since I skipped last year):01. Mend

Life is Short, Propel Forward

2010-10-12T12:27:00.000-07:00

Call it a crisis, deer in the headlights moment, titanic sinking, any metaphor analogy will do for my life right now. I've found I've delaying success by hindering myself with excuses. I've realized after a few lost years of post-college life. I've gotten married and have been working in a stable job for nearly four years. The problem? I didn't look 3-5-10 years down the road. I had no plan. Well

30 Days to Success 3

2010-07-29T13:42:00.000-07:00

~ August 1 - August 31 ~After enduring frequent times of turbulence in this year, I've decided my biggest issue is the doing part. It's time to embark upon another month in disciplined inner work.Work is love made visible. —Kahlil GibranNo wind favors he who has no destined port. —MontaigneWell done is better than well said. —Benjamin FranklinThe best way to predict the future is to create it. -

Empathy

2010-07-28T14:15:00.000-07:00

It's been a tough year as I've mentioned in frequent years, but one thing I happy to report is that my empathy skills have been improving. For the first time, I've been trying extremely hard to step out of my shoes in another's and feel what they're feeling on the inside. To not get defensive or go on the attack when faced with hearing a complaint from another person but to better understand how

Self-Awareness & Assertiveness

2010-03-30T14:31:00.000-07:00

I decided to scrap the patience word study and do some self-awareness & assertiveness work instead. It came to my attention that many over reactions can be kept in check by firmly being self-aware of one's own feelings. Too often we as individuals can let our emotions get the best of us, to fly off the handle and regret it. Those repressed emotions come out of "stuffing" all the negative emotions

Blog redesigned

2010-03-26T15:18:00.000-07:00

Welcome to the new redesigned Resilient Redux blog.I have to say I like the new changes Blogger is doing with templates. More customization and there are a ton of "gadgets" I can add. Also did some "house cleaning" by getting rid of outdated broken links in Useful section. Hopefully I'll have some more cool links to add now that I've been visiting different websites these days than the old PUA

Follow-through

2009-12-02T16:13:00.000-08:00

Follow-through is the word of the month. After not making much progress in our marriage after the decline this year in our overall satisfaction it has come to my attention that I have to put my money where my mouth is. I'm a big talker about change and make plans, but I don't have a strong resolve or execution to get me through the next season. It's one of my biggest flaws that I'm just coming to

Recreation

2009-11-11T15:33:00.000-08:00

Recently, I've been learning how important outlets are. Every one of us have to deal with stress on a day to day basis. Sometimes the level is low and sometimes it's extremely high. In the past I didn't really know how to deal with the stress as it was hit with a crisis that I had to deal personally with at hand. Often I feel like I would crumble, other times the crises would make me into a

Legacy

2009-09-16T16:56:00.000-07:00

Lately, I've been thinking about the word "Legacy."From Dictionary.com:Law. a gift of property, esp. personal property, as money, by will; a bequest.anything handed down from the past, as from an ancestor or predecessor: the legacy of ancient Rome.an applicant to or student at a school that was attended by his or her parent.Obsolete. the office, function, or commission of a legate.In 2009, I've

Stratovarius

2009-06-03T10:55:00.000-07:00

I normally don't review music on this blog, but had to put up a short review of an album that I'm really into at the moment. After four years in legal debt battle with the band, Stratovarius is back! I really admire and respect these guys for keeping the band fresh and running for over 20 years. They're like the U2 of power metal. Every album they put out is always inspiring and perfect for work

Unemployment & the Economy

2009-05-05T15:39:00.000-07:00

Man.. with the unemployment skyrocketing in our economy I'm sure as happy to say I still have my job. I complain about the stress of wearing many hats at a small company, but am thankful for the experience I'm getting. I read this article today on USAToday of tent cities springing up across the nation and made me feel sad for the hardship many are now experiencing. These people don't have

My Plan for 2009

2008-12-29T11:16:00.001-08:00

Wow... I can't believe 2008 has already flown by. The year was a year in transition. I began the year legally single and as of October 25, 2008 I became a married man. Look out ladies this parking space is taken. I was available for 6 years without a long term girlfriend in sight until I met my wife. We were married this year on our two year anniversary. I spent the entire year researching

Expanding My Horizons

2008-12-01T14:40:00.000-08:00

It's amazing how one job can become an obsession to the point where one forgets himself. That was the year of 2008 where I planned a wedding with my bride. After careful and intensive planning the wedding was completed over a month ago now and life seems to have reverted back to the way life was pre-engagement. I haven't spent much time with other married couples my age to know how their

Just Married!

2008-10-27T10:01:00.000-07:00

On October 25, 2008 I got married. It was a beautiful wedding and it was everything I had hoped it to be. The careful planning for nearly a year paid off. For me it was so neat to see all the family and friends watch me get married in a church. I got many remarks from people that the church was beautiful and the view of the mountains behind the windows was amazing. The day went so extraordinarly

Volatile Stock Market

2008-09-10T12:11:00.000-07:00

I have to say it's been hard watching a decade of building a portfolio jump off a cliff in just a matter of a year or so in the markets.I bought these stocks at a low price in 2000 when I got out of high school thinking I could buy them low and then put them away. Sadly, they've been taken down.The experience has definitely made me humble when I thought my portfolio would keep appreciating over

Busy, Busy, Summer...

2008-06-30T16:10:00.000-07:00

Man, I remember when I was kid how easy going summers were. You'd be let 2/3 the way through June and you wouldn't have to go back to school until late August. Now as an adult, I feel like I spend my summers going to weddings, moving apartments, visiting family, and planning big projects for work.I guess this is just the first slice of mature life as an adult. I hear it only gets worse when you

Out with Junk, In with Health

2008-04-28T07:49:00.000-07:00

Recently, I've been doing some careful study and self examination of why I've been so drained, stressed and without energy; I came down to a few conclusions: I was not eating well. I substituted natural energy that are found in fruits for candy bars, crackers, and other junk foods. Instead of water, I was drinking soda and lots of it daily. I wasn't exercising at all. I had to gain 13 pounds to

Career & Continuing Ed

2008-04-17T14:04:00.001-07:00

Lately, I've been thinking quite a bit about my career. I've been out of college for nearly 3 years now and am are beginning to look back how I was back then and what I've learned since then.I feel different from not being around fellow designers and developers like I was in school now I'm just the "web/graphic" guy in a financial office that has a quiet cubicle in the back.I guess I just miss

Something's Gotta Give

2008-03-20T08:07:00.000-07:00

Been in a slump lately.That's the weird thing about slumps... one doesn't find one self slipping into one until is already in deep. I've been having personal problems with my personal and work life and am finding it's time to shape up.I don't know if I'm going to do another 30 Days to Success to reboot, but I'll definitely be pushing off some unimportant pass times for ideas that I know will make

The Zombie Month

2008-03-13T15:58:00.000-07:00

Strange DreamsLately... or at least for the past three weeks, I haven't been able to get much sleep. I don't know if its the change in weather or what, but I've found myself waking up frequently at night and not being able to fall back asleep. Or I finally do.. it tends to take a while. My dreams have been strange and don't seem to make much sense. What I do gather from most of it, is that what

Weddings = Expensive

2008-02-14T09:45:00.001-08:00

So I popped the big question last month and she said "yes." Since then I've been involved in a flurry of Must-Do-Nows. It's crazy how intricate and involved the whole process is. Once you figure out your immediate wedding party then you have to scope reception sites to be able to hold all the people on the guest list. After that you have to secure a priest/pastor to marry, track down a

My Plan for 2008

2008-01-04T10:36:00.000-08:00

It's interesting how one's life changes once he meets, attracts, and settles into a comfortable relationship. Instead of goals pushing forth one's own aims, the goals bend to become the couple's aims for a life spent together.I originally wrote down my goals for 2007 at the end of the year for 2006 when I just started to date my girlfriend. I wasn't very serious with her at the time, so I figured

Apartment Hunting

2007-11-30T14:03:00.000-08:00

About a year and half ago I moved out my parents home that I lived with for 24 years of my life. In order to have financial aid from my parents in college, I agreed to stay home and commute rather than live closer to my college. It was a sacrifice I paid in order to have enough study time to pull off top scores and project designs in my program.I've been living with my brother and his fiance for

Avoiding Debt

2007-11-02T13:42:00.000-07:00

I've been thinking about money lately. I've been watching the nice paycheck get deposited automatically in my bank account and it got me thinking about all the things I want or would enjoy buying for my entertainment.After some time, I got thinking about living not just in the present but building for my future. I'm fortunate in my age to not have a mortgage to pay off monthly, expensive kids to

Oil Future Conscious

2007-11-02T13:23:00.000-07:00

I've been watching the price of Oil soring to $100/barrel and beyond this year and that has had me thinking quite a bit about oil lately.I'm in my upper 20s, and fastly approaching my 30s. I've been driving economy cars like Civics ever since I turned 17. Now that I've been settled in my career for a while and have just started now saving up for a place I've been thinking how nice it would be to

Social Paradigm Shift

2007-09-28T09:16:00.000-07:00

In reflection of 2007 so far, I've come upon a few personal revelations.Last year when I was my "pua" phase, I was going out 2-3 a week with wing men hitting on numerous women for practice in gaining more self-confidence in the social atmosphere.Oddly a year later, and now I don't feel that social pressure to fit in or impress others like I used to. I can naturally be myself and not feel pressure

Where Did Time go?

2007-09-12T07:46:00.000-07:00

Agh, so Labor Day has past and marked the end of summer.I felt like I had one of the fastest and busiest summers of my life.Every weekend was a wedding, family event, or social party that couldn't be missed. I had so little time to myself and kept busy with places I had to be and people I had to see. I can remember a year previous when I was single and going out once or twice during the week

Onward

2007-08-14T07:35:00.001-07:00

I believe for the first time this year I've been feeling my age.Before I always felt another year was just another year to discover myself. Though going through all the pua/inner game stuff last year it was a year of self-discovery. Now I doubt myself less and feel more comfortable in my skin and less insecure. It took a while to get there, but it feels damn good knowing people don't have the

Started a New Blog

2007-07-20T09:52:00.000-07:00

Just wanted to give my readers a heads up on my new blog. Resilient Redux will still remain my main stay as far as posting goes, but I'll writing some more in my new blog, "Wayfarer."The blog is about my adventures outdoors, including trips to the mountains, forests, and other visited areas of the world. I figured since I've traveling everywhere frequently since 2004 to many places around the

A Brave New World Pt.2

2007-07-19T11:09:00.000-07:00

I believe on the brink of the search to find ourselves and bring meaning to our life we stare back at our souls and then begin to identify what makes our selves unique versus the rest of society.It's at this point that we throw off false values that previously defined us and we take up a new mantle of beliefs and we hold to those core values that make up our own reality and decisions based on

A Brave New World Pt.1

2007-07-10T08:57:00.000-07:00

A Brave New World–noun a new period in history resulting from major changes in society, esp. technological; a future world or society experiencing positive and negative effects from major changes. [Origin: < Brave New World]Looking back at the first half of this year, I can honestly say it's been a roller coaster and a transitional period for my life. It's like I'm a character in Huxley's

Meet the Family

2007-07-02T15:44:00.000-07:00

For the July 4th celebration I'll be traveling far from California to New York to meet my girlfriend's family.The family is fairly the "typical American family," with parents split and having the second family's intermingle with the first family around celebrations.It will be my second time meeting a serious girlfriend's family. This one's heard about me for seven months, so I hope to not have

The Struggle

2007-06-27T10:08:00.000-07:00

Mirrorofthesoul just wrote recently how he's defending his path to remain a bachelor.I've been following his blog for about a year and many things he wrote surprised me about our society. When I looked deeply beyond the surface of our society I could see the cracks and how we men let ourselves become deceived and brainwashed by the feminized media through childhood movies, cartoons, commercials

Life as Boxing

2007-06-21T09:09:00.000-07:00

I was listening to Doc Love's show recently and one of the interesting things he spoke about after a caller called in, he quoted Clint Eastwood in Million Dollar Baby: "Before you get in the ring, protect yourself at all times" I believe we have to look out for ourselves and realize what we're really getting into when we decide to commit to one woman. Knowing her well before saying the

Spiritual Leader

2007-06-19T10:24:00.000-07:00

The DiscoveryI'm nearing the end of my 6 month meetings with Men's Fraternity and I have to say I've discovered much about life as well as my role as a man. I took almost all of last year at age 24-25 to do my own research on what it is to "be a man" and even wrote mentors seeking advice and wisdom in handling my career and my dating experiences with women when trying to go the PUA (pick-up

People Are Afraid of Change

2007-06-08T10:40:00.000-07:00

Something interesting acquired to me yesterday.I was sitting there at a restaurant with my girlfriend conversing about how much less drama we've been having the last few weeks as opposed the last few months of our relationship where others were trying to get us to break up because they missed the old "resilient".My family and friends around me were curious about my first real relationship and

Spring Cleaning

2007-05-30T09:56:00.000-07:00

I never really understood the expression "spring cleaning" until last weekend. My small walk in closet had been piling up with used clothes, junk, snorkel gear, and whatnot and my work clothes had become harder to reach to.Despite having a "slow" Saturday with my g/f I decided to drive back to my place, bring a big trash can and throw out useless clutter. I trashed a ton of self-improvement stuff

Investing

2007-05-11T11:24:00.000-07:00

When I was 21 in the year 2002, I decided it was time to enter the stock market while in college. I handed over money over to a broker after carefully reviewing the investment philosophy of the firm. My money had been sitting duly in my savings account collecting barely any interest. Fast forward five years later and my assets have really grown now. I was happy that I invested the money at the

Adam and Eve

2007-05-01T10:36:00.000-07:00

Last night I went over to help my best wing Discipline move some furniture as his place.Finally he had finished his three month task to repaint his town-home. We started talking about his recent success with women and the direction and expectation of relationships that comes from intimacy progression.I confessed that I often get jealous when my girlfriend flirts with other men or stays in close

Lessons From Married Guys

2007-04-17T08:39:00.000-07:00

Before I head out of the country for a week, I wanted to write a little bit about the changes I've been going through this year thus far that has been impactful.During the last 4 or 5 months I've learned an immense amount about life and relationships as a result from joining Men's Fraternity - Journey Towards Manhood.Every Monday night from 6:30-8:30 our church's men watch a DVD of a Christian

Time for a Vacation!

2007-04-12T10:17:00.000-07:00

"To get away from one's working environment is, in a sense, to get away from one's self; and this is often the chief advantage of travel and change." - Charles Horton Cooley It's time once again for an adventure. My last vacation was Vegas for New Years and that was a short weekend getaway. This time I'll by flying to a beach location in Mexico for some R&R with my girlfriend. People made

Priorities

2007-03-30T09:05:00.001-07:00

Last week I had an amazing talk with my old wing Discipline. I was helping him paint the inside of his house with a new theme. He took it upon himself to paint his place and fix it up for new roommates and the unexpectedness turned into a great time for mentoring. I didn't go there to be mentored by him, but the guy is 5 years older than me and has gained wisdom from his path already. We got

Man's Stages in Life

2007-03-20T11:02:00.000-07:00

I'm nearly complete with reading Baltasar's great book. Number 276 struck me how through the course of a man's life we go through stages. He relates these stages humoursly through animals. I think you'll enjoy this one and identify with it depending where you're at: Know how to renew your character both with nature and art. Every seven years the disposition changes, they say. Let it be a change

300 Maxims

2007-03-16T15:37:00.000-07:00

Last month I was reading a geopolitical site and one editorialist spoke about the wisdom of a philosopher from the 17th century that really intrigued me.Gracián is the most representative writer of the Spanish Baroque literary style known as Conceptismo. Baltasar Gracian was an outcast philosopher/theologist living in Spain as a member of the Society of Jesuits.He often speaks in aphorisms in his

30 Days to Success 2

2007-02-22T18:02:00.000-08:00

Week One 3/11Challenges: Early rising 15-30 mins of Spanish and Speed Reading CD-Rom Ah, so my second run has been much harder than I initially planned. My first run, I didn't have a LTR, so I had all the time in the world for self-improvement. I was just exchanging emails with YourStallion who's also doing the 30day challenge and I ranted a bit how it's hard to self-improve when maintaining a

GTDTiddlyWiki

2007-02-20T22:49:00.001-08:00

Thanks to Red, I've started my own Getting Things Done wiki. I just started playing around with it last night, but it should help me get organized. In the past, when planning goals I always used Word and Excel files to track progress. The cool thing is that I won't have to have so many files open and just be able to look at one web portal from anywhere I go.On another note of self-improvement,

10 Dating Dont's

2007-02-09T18:00:00.000-08:00

I was listening to Doc Love's radio show online last night to unwind before bed and was impressed with something he had been cooking up for a while. He calls it his 10 Dating Dont's. His thinking reflects DJing and the men's movement well. I thought you guys could get some use out of it:Don't listen to your ego, listen to Doc's adviceDon't be too available, it's anti-challengeDon't date a

The Game Must Go On

2007-02-07T16:44:00.000-08:00

Updated 02.08, 1:46pm pstI've been out of the game for a while now since getting accustomed to being in a LTR now of 3+ months. It's great not feeling desperate or trying so hard to improve my routines, vocal tonality, wardrobe, etc. and constantly putting in the draining time it took to dress up, drive out, and stay out way late just to do some approaching. I'm positive even though I put so much

Men's Fraternity

2007-01-23T08:46:00.000-08:00

In my college days I commuted to a small 800 persons art school that consisted in a two story building with no off campus living. I didn't get the chance to really connect with my colleagues except when the quarterly BBQ kicked off a new quarter and all the kids clad in black socialized. Artists are introverted people for the most part and aren't king on socializing. Partly why I got in The Game

Honesty and Communication

2007-01-18T15:29:00.000-08:00

"Honesty is the best policy. If I lose mine honor, I lose myself.” - William Shakespeare For those of my readers already in relationships, you've probably figured out depending how long the relationship has been going that communication is a very important foundation of any relationship.I nearly broke up with my girlfriend Monday over issues that made my concerns grow of her integrity. I let the

Taking the Lead

2006-12-27T12:42:00.000-08:00

2006 has been an amazing year.I joined the pua community and approached non stop from February to September to build my social intelligence.Just when I was getting burnt out from The Game, I found a new passion: Dance.My best wing, Discipline invited me out one night to a dancing venue to learn a few dance moves and practice pick-up on dance game. I learned two dances that night, the Cha Cha and

Focus + Apply = Competence

2006-12-26T08:35:00.000-08:00

A revelation I came upon thinking this week. We as human beings stay in mediocrity if we just plan, plan, and plan without taking the first step towards action.I remember last year I would complain about not being the brightest student in my graduating college class. Looking back I know it's because I didn't experiment at home or run enough tutorials to make my skills grow. Instead I opted for

VISION Statement

2006-12-22T09:14:00.000-08:00

I watched this on Youtube this morning and it's already inspiring me to dream big for 2007.

My Plan for 2007

2006-12-21T09:58:00.000-08:00

It is incredibly interesting looking back exactly a year ago from this date and seeing what my goals were on sosuave. I do believe I've hammered out most what I set out to accomplish. Reviewing my goals and revisiting my blog often to see where I am is how I measure success. I've gained a lot of wisdom this year from reading dozens of books and writing my observations on here.* green -

Defeating Self-Deceptions

2006-12-19T09:10:00.000-08:00

Along our path in life to success we meet many barriers and road blocks on the way that try to take us off our path of determination. Perhaps something may happen in a social interaction may hammer our self-esteem or being let go by a girlfriend.If one thing I've found in life is consistent, than it is change.Our employers, family members, friends, may cut us off from being close in any form,

Humbled

2006-12-11T14:55:00.001-08:00

Just a week back from India and I've been hit with every symptom of the flu and anything odd that could happen when you get sick and have the strangest sleep schedules. It's been rough trying to adjust back to the real world. I felt like a storm was gathering in my reality when I read a post on sosuave today. It was a man complaining about women's behavior and those who justify it. I could have

The Evangelist

2006-12-08T07:43:00.000-08:00

Two weeks ago I set out on a journey half way across the world. I was searching for a new civilization I had not experienced yet. I didn't know what to expect as the trip to India would be my first missionary trip and sharing the Gospel message of Christ. The first few days of plane and taxi transportation gave me a tourist vibe.It wasn't until I got dropped off from a jeep in the middle of no

Jets to Asia

2006-11-20T11:02:00.000-08:00

While this has nothing to do with pick-up, I'll be travelling to Singapore for a few days and then spending two weeks in a rural village in India with a team of people from different parts of the states.In the southern parts of India, I will be traveling hut to hut speaking with natives and sharing the gospel message of Christ. I don't know what to really expect when I get to Asia, but have been

A Year in Resilience 2005-2006

2006-11-07T09:37:00.000-08:00

"Life is a storm, my young friend. You will bask in the sunlight one moment, be shattered on the rocks the next. What makes you a man is what you do when that storm comes." ~ Count of Monte Cristo (2002) A Year Ago, On This Date…I had just broken up with my first sexual partner, whom was an ex LDR oneitis. At 25, I remember hitting rock bottom and putting myself on heavy sleeping pills for

The Light At the End of the Tunnel

2006-10-18T09:55:00.000-07:00

...is a freight train.That phrase is what my pastor said to me last month after we were discussing marriage. It's a silly phrase, but has me quite puzzled. Supposively he thinks I'm next, but I feel I'm a long ways from being prepared to settle down.At 25, I've just started on my career (1 year post-college). So far making it month-to-month doesn't exactly attract HB10, but at least it weeds out

Blind for a Day

2006-10-17T14:48:00.000-07:00

My vision has been bugging me for back as long as I could remember. I always had to wear glasses at night while driving and loathed thinking I'd opt the situation for contacts. I got tired of being in a room and not being able to see people's faces 5-10 feet away. I decided something HAD to be done about this ad nauseum. SO! I finally caved in. With the magical wonders and possibility that is

More Decisions = More Confidence

2006-10-12T10:19:00.000-07:00

Rewatching David D's Deep Inner Game was one of the best things I did last weekend when I was comatose after my Lasik eye surgery. I had to stay in my bed the whole weekend to recover while keeping my eyes shut as much as possible to heal while having "Bono-like" shades over my eyes.During that time I watched 7 dvds of DD's program and felt like I learned a lot more than I did the previous round.

Focusing on Fun

2006-10-10T10:51:00.000-07:00

So my last few posts have been a bit melodramatic and I apologize for that. I am, however learning incredible lessons these days with the mistakes I make out there in the real world. What Initially attracts her; keeps herI've been noticing I have a pattern of falling too fast for a girl or getting too needy and wanting a serious relationship with persistant texts/calls and/or emails. I didn't

King, Warrior, Magician, Lover

2006-10-09T13:06:00.000-07:00

A few days ago I posted the results of a personality test driven by 31 questions to evaluate my personality. I got Magician, but I wasn't surprised as I'm a highly creative person but tend to lack focus of a logical minded person (Queen) in social situations, but in relationships I take the Lover archetype and can be more naturing and passive and I tend to date Warrior HBs who are very action

Magician!

2006-09-30T19:07:00.000-07:00

In the community we consider this ChickCrack, but... I took this test since my wing Discipline and I always base our social interactions around this simple 4 archetype system of King/Queen, Warrior, Lover, and Magician. Within a minute I can always spot out what's someone personality is. It's really fascinating because if you know what someone is you know how to interact with them in a zen

30 Days To Success!

2006-09-30T16:39:00.000-07:00

In Conclusion:What a whirlwind of a month. I've found out by giving dates and realistic deadlines to goals, progress can become reality! Here is a result of what the 30 days to success program brought me: Accomplished: Waking up at 6:45am, instead of sleeping in to 8:45am like before for work. Quit Monster energy drink and Snickers Ice Cream bar Meditation from 15 mins to 40 mins daily Pushed

Drive, Energy, Valor

2006-09-19T14:34:00.000-07:00

Taking a 6 week break from going out all the time got me thinking a lot about the events that happened since I first started going out in February. I had made lots of progress over that 6 month period, but I felt like I was still missing something.Mastery of The GameI watched as some guys passed me up while I still struggled with approach anxiety. They were able to SOI faster, get the group

A Renaissance Man is Born!

2006-08-24T18:51:00.000-07:00

"...quenched the fury of the flames, and escaped the edge of the sword; whose weakness was turned to strength; and who became powerful in battle and routed foreign armies."- Hebrews 11:34 Brothers, I’m not sure where this transformation began, but it began very quickly with the rejection of my close friends. My ego took a serious blow when I failed as a man. I was more upset that my friends

Manifesto!

2006-04-01T15:59:00.000-08:00

I've decided after reading the dj bible and lurking on sosuave for a few months now to go through with my first boot camp. I had some incredible djs on here recently help me get over a 5 month LDR (3 months together in europe 24/7 and then 2 months visiting when back in the states) that had BPD/HPD. The master djs taught me dj philosophy and helped clear my head, anyway I'd like to give a few